Re: Madness
"Anyone who says parents should parent like their parents did [...] is probably thinking of their parents parenting by taking the TV out the child's bedroom. Tell me how this is done with devices that by definition are movable,"
It's not the only thing that needs to happen, but one important place to start is by deciding what devices the child should have. If that means no smartphone because they aren't trusted to use it properly, then don't buy them a smartphone. Buy them a simple phone, or maybe don't buy them any phone. It's not perfect, but it's a start that, when suggested, some people act like is an impossible idea that they don't understand how anyone could suggest.
"In no business on the planet is the IT department expected to enforce agreed company policies without the ability to administrate devices, software, or company websites, yet patents are told they have to do just that for their children."
Of course they're not. They're the parents' devices, and they can be locked down. In some cases, you might be able to manage without doing so, but there are restrictions. Use them. A lot of complainers have never looked at the options or decided that because they're theoretically bypassable, we'll just ignore those and demand others. There are many management options for mobile and desktop devices, many of them free, and they can be used.
"others will unfortunately have all their friends on Instagram so it becomes necessary for the child to have an account as part of having a social life with other children and for the parent to have a degree of control over what their child does in Instagram [...] This is not possible at the moment."
This is where you see what the various parental options on Instagram allow and decide whether they're sufficient, and if they're not, take it up with Instagram. I don't know what they are as I don't use or administer it, but they certainly claim to have lots of options. But before you rush to legislate, consider that Instagram is not a necessity after all, even if others use it. I had friends who used social media I did not, and somehow I still had a social life with them. If the risks of Instagram are too high, prohibiting it is an option. You have the decision whether it, with parental options enabled, is an acceptable risk or not. It is not our responsibility to lock down everything because Instagram doesn't have a feature you think it needs but you insist on letting your children use it.
One important thing is not to let technological control outweigh all the other important things. Preventing your child from being bullied on social media is important, but if all you do is prevent them from seeing messages, the problem is still there. If they're a target of a bully, they're probably in close proximity to the bully in question. You can do far more good by knowing and responding to that situation, whether that's by teaching the child about ways to respond to raising a complaint against the bully than any social media filter will ever do. When we ask parents to parent, it's often with non-technology solutions which they should use already.