Well, the article title says MS will do it even if we won't, and they allegedly have previous for updating some things without the users permission.
http://www.informationweek.com/microsoft-updates-windows-without-user-permission-apologizes/d/d-id/1059183?
Also, my concern was more along the lines of, in most places there is a difference between the person developing the application and the person managing the server. In shops where products last five, six, seven years and staff typically don't last that long, there's no way for a server owner to know what a patch might just disable / break under the broad "security fixes" heading without having knowledge of the code for all the products in their care -- which while it may be ideal is an unrealistic expectation to have.