Spaghettification - not always
Being stretched out depends on the gravitational gradient - however for a given event horizon diameter the gradient could be pretty much any value.
A very dense mass being a small sphere at the centre of the event horizon would have a much steeper gradient than a less dense mass that was just very big.
Also - many people forget that escape velocity (and hence escaping from a black hole) only applies to projectiles.
You don't need to reach escape velocity to get to the moon - you could walk there if there was a staircase long enough - in that case you are under power. The reason why our rockets go so quickly has little to do with escape velocity and more to do with energy density.
You could drive a car to the moon (250,000 miles). But you need fuel. So you pull a fuel tanker. And your fuel consumption goes up. So you need more fuel...and so on.
So you get a kind of fuel that is more energy dense - until the payload to the moon isn't quite such a tiny percentage of the mass of the fuel/payload combination.
Trouble is, with the fuels that we currently use that are energy dense enough - they are hard to control - and go off, well, like a rocket.
Got off track there a bit I think.