You're not alone.
For one i stayed away from being exposed to chatbots etc. When i see AI , i don't see a human and at my age , human contact and expertise is what i look for and go to.
That security has been an afterthought does not surprise me. 27 years on Linux has thaught me a few things ( yeah , already ) if it's not in mind from the start it will always be catchup
and mostly like windows. Catastrophe one after the other, All the time having to watch our backs is tiring and i have the same " deja vu " feeling with AI : full steam ahead and " icebergs ? what icebergs ? " Odd but i don't want any part of it. I do not find the advantages in having a machine thinking for me , i code , i code. It's mine , like a painting , my work , my intellect and finding solutions to complex problems is what drives me. When i see machines fighting machines , machines penetrating and hacking other machines and sontrol hardware to infrastructures like water plants , electrical plants , all i see is a complete lack of guardrails. None at all seem present. Too late ? Might be .. all i know is that it's another man's problem. The problem of a whole industry that wasd driven solely by cash and not on solid well thought of science. Good engineering provides worst case scenarios , tries to make sure what is done won't create problems elsewhere down the chain. If at least we'd see real efforts being made , but my feeling is exactly your's , the train's gone out the station . Good day.