Re: One might suggest there are only two worries for 'AI'
What exactly is the point of "being polite to a hammer", even if it "costs me nothing"? Do you say "start, please" when you turn your car on, do you ask it "oh, what's wrong, are you not feeling it today, do you want to talk about it" when it gives you grief? Why not, it doesn't cost you anything... Why are you discriminating in your politeness against some objects or actions but not others? Where is that line for you?
There is no point in using these politeness constructs with devices or objects, because they are just objects. Objects don't have feelings, emotions, inner worlds, consciousness, etc. You are not causing harm to them (nor to yourself) by not being polite. I would actually opine that one would be causing harm to themselves and those around them when one is polite to these objects, because one then treats or starts treating an object like a human with all the rights and privileges that come with it. That is the danger point: these things in their current incarnation do not deserve those rights, privileges, etc. because they aren't human.
I find it deeply troubling that objects are being personified, and I don't think this is a thing we should encourage others to do!
Once you start attributing person-hood, or intentions, or feelings to an object that is created to deceive you (and I stand by my analysis that the current crop of AI has the explicit intention to deceive you; it has been/is being created by it's masters in such a way to make you believe that you are interacting with a human/human-like thing when what you are interacting with is not that - this is a hill my enemies will die on) you erode defenses you have against being manipulated by these things. These things are explicitly created to manipulate you - case in point, they're already succeeding in making some of us think of them as worthy of pleas, deference, emotional consideration, and other rights and privileges we grant people.
Computers, nor cars, nor ships, nor hammers actively try to deceive you into making you believe they are human when they aren't. They are objects. These AI things are also just objects. Objects are not a thing to say please or thank you to. To that same effect, I find it curious when people say "thank you" to amazon's eves-dropping device. It's not a human, it doesn't have feelings, it doesn't feel bad when you don't say thank you, it doesn't feel bad when you don't order two tons of creamed corn even though it suggested that to you. It's there to get your money, nothing more. It doesn't work for you, it works for it's owners. Once you attribute emotions, feelings, consciousness, etc to these things, you open yourself up to manipulation and blackmail by these devices and objects out of fear of causing it emotional harm by not giving in. That way madness - and ruin - lies.
I'm not going to tell you what to do or what not to do. All we're doing here is exchanging ideas, but I will not grant person-hood, nor recognize that these objects of the current crop have any type of humanity or consciousness. These things are not worthy of our pleas or politeness.
I don't think it's the 'reasonably civilized' folk that are being polite to these tools. Civility can be misplaced. Civility is not always the right course of action. I think those using misplaced civility are those who do not understand that these tools are merely tools, I think it's the ones that have been duped by these tools that do that who are 'civil' to these objects... What's the point of civility towards a shredder when you've just fallen into one that is switched to the 'on' state?
I will continue to try to educate people of why they shouldn't grant person-hood or humanity to these tools.