You Don't Get It
We have two (or three) power blocks looking at each other through gunsights. Ukraine already burns and kills thousands each month.
Now the goal must be to limit the amount of fuel delivered to the fire.
There are no easy decisions. Each course of action has disadvantages and now it is about choosing the least nasty option: stop delivery of technology to prospective enemy. Conserve the current world order, as ugly as it sometimes is.