You got it wrong
Apple's behavior is similar to Nintendo, Sony and Microsoft with their respective consoles. Unless you jailbreak them, you can't sideload stuff or experiment willy-nilly with your device. Whether they're right in doing that is the debate that also varies with each country's laws.
Now, this isn't "everyone gets free access to every data ever", the idea is that you own what you bought. It's not "Apple must show all its secrets!", it's "We want sideloading because we paid for the device". If I have an iPhone or iPad, why should I -not- be allowed to use it to program or test a new app that i don't intend to put on the app store?
That's where the similarity to consoles is obvious: "To fight piracy and ensure quality, we only allow apps/games approved and/or licensed by us".
Biting the hand that feeds IT
