I just want something that's easy to use, does NOT look "all 2D FLATTY FLATSO", doesn't require excessive "mousie clickie" operations that mean removing my fingers from home row a BOZILLIAN TIMES to get ANYTHING done, and so on.
I use an IDE that incorporates my preferred editor, build toolchain, debugger, and other tools as first-class components. It's called "bash". On Windows, I run it under Cygwin (because I'd been doing that long before WSU morphed into WSL). Lightweight, fast, extremely scriptable, no stupid eye candy, no mysterious black boxes to get in the way of doing work.
I've never yet seen an IDE with the power and transparency of the shell and a set of dedicated-purpose tools.