Re: Waxy build-up
I hate this too. If you want buds but don't want them in your ears, try Bose buds with StayHear tips. They block the ear canal but don't actually go in - so unless your ears are properly mucky they shouldn't bother you.
AirPods Pro use a similar approach; but people on here get fed up with me banging on about Apple so.... try the Bose.