Re: Sex is an act but not a performance.
You're doing it wrong. Hey, a tragedy can still be a performance!
How can you be sure you are doing it wrong?
Or even right...
The most instruction we ever got was rumour and unnuendo followed up by blind fumbling about until we found something that kind of worked*.
TV exposure was always choreographed, porn scripted, the birds and the bees not an instructive guide and state education wise we generally had something almost little better than the Goodies Gender Education.
* personally, I've always had attempts that more closely resembled the clown troupe at a freak show circus...only a couple of nights, no repeat performance, no encore and basic accommodations.