Re: I'm torn here
The ladies ogle the guys, too. And some ogle other ladies. And some guys ogle other guys. And some folks ogle both. And I know one person who ogles couples. But we all ogle. It's part of what makes us human.
My wife ogles John Barrowman, even knowing she couldn't have him even if he were standing naked in our house. As for myself, I might appreciate he could be sexy, but even if I were female I'd still prefer women.