Re: Meanwhile, on BT Infinitesimal
VDSL routers:
Draytek 2760 for home
Draytek 2860 small business
Cisco 887 VA for "won't ever let go of the VDSL"
All give decent stats, all do SNMP.
We get the ones without wireless functionality - but that's to do with wanting multiple wireless access points in appropriate locations - so non-wireless ones might not be suitable for you.
Draytek's are "SIN 498 MCT" compliant. i.e. will actually work with Openreach FTTC. Bit like the "green circle" stickers on phones that used to indicate BABT approval for connecting a device to a phone line.
See here for devices (assume accurate - but can't confirm):
https://www.pack-net.co.uk/blog/update-changes-to-fttc
Least interesting pdf ever about what is needed for this compliance:
https://www.openreach.co.uk/orpg/home/products/super-fastfibreaccess/downloads/ProcessGuideforCPEeModemConformanceTestingIssue1.4.pdf