Re: In the opposite direction
> That's a lot higher than I would have expected.
Many seemingly unusual features are a lot more common than expected. Neutron stars are a normal feature of a star's evolution, so they are very common. Binaries are also more common than one would expect, heck, there are even monsters like the sextuple Alpha Geminorum ("Castor")!...
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> how special is our particular neck of the woods
Scientifically speaking, there is no reason to think our area is special in any way.
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> how long does it take for them to merge
It depends on so many different factors (initial distance, individual mass, relative mass, individual spin, individual magnetic fields) that you can't give a figure. The thing to keep in mind is that supernovae and neutron star mergers happen constantly somewhere in our galaxy, and both create those heavy elements. While their distribution across the galaxy isn't uniform (some star systems have less, some more), there is no indication that our system is outside the norm -- the norm for the intermediate suburbs of our galaxy. Further out, and especially further in, things change somewhat. Downtown, in the central bulge, stars are very dense, new stars are created constantly, there is a lot of dust and radiation, and the environment is generally unhealthy. Life would have a hard time appearing there I guess, but I'm no specialist.