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Three in five parents snoop on their teenager's email and calling habits, but teenagers themselves are almost as guilty of checking out the communications history of their partners. The survey was conducted by online store Retrevo, which reports that almost half of those under 25 admit to examining their partner's devices when …

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    1. Graham Marsden
      WTF?

      Intrusive parents? No, *Responsible* Parents!

      There is a difference between state monitoring of someone's personal data and the actions of a parent who wishes to ensure that their child is safe!

      Ok, I think it would be better to be done *with* the consent of the child rather than snooping behind their backs, but how many times have comments been posted in articles in El Reg saying that it's the job of the *parents* to take care of what their children do on the web and who they talk to via e-mail etc?

      So why does this article seemingly portray sensible, responsible concerns of parents as a bad thing?

      1. Anonymous Coward
        Anonymous Coward

        title

        "So why does this article seemingly portray sensible, responsible concerns of parents as a bad thing?"

        Because I'm 27 damn it! Yes Mum, back before midnight.

      2. Daniel 4
        Stop

        No, not responsible - misguided, rude, and occasionally illegal in their actions

        "So why does this article seemingly portray sensible, responsible concerns of parents as a bad thing?"

        Well, I can come up with a couple of rather good reasons. You already mentioned the first - that whole "without consent," or perhaps more accurately, "without knowledge." The article also makes it clear that we're talking about teenage children (last two paragraphs). I would never go through my teenage child's belongings, including correspondence, without telling them so - it's only right and proper, they may be your kids, but they're humans, too.

        Finally, the article never said at what point the parents stop. They mention people spying on their adult partners, and if someone is willing to do that, I don't see why they wouldn't spy on their adult teenage children. That's not only unethical, but depending on the circumstances, it's illegal.

        In short, for the love of all that's holy, watch over your kids very closely when they are young, but realize that if you find it necessary (or even comforting) to read your 16 year old teenager's emails every night then either you or your child has VERY serious problems (all the more so if the "teenager" is 19). Relax that leash a bit as they get older, otherwise you are only doing them a disservice - and eventually, you are breaking the law.

        I guess to answer your question in a sentence, I'd have to say that the "sensible, responsible concerns of parents" aren't a bad thing, but the way they are handled can be.

        -d

  2. Anonymous Coward
    Anonymous Coward

    it's called 'the shower attack'

    in IT circles, as "guilty of checking out the communications history of their partners." is allegedly best done whilst you can hear the sound of running water. On the other hand those wise partners who take their iDevice into the shower with them might be aware of this 'attack' and presumably have something to hide!

    1. Anonymous Coward
      FAIL

      Not wanting to be spied on..

      Doesn't mean you have anything to hide except your privacy.

    2. Evil Auditor Silver badge

      @AC 12:49 GMT

      As I used to say... I have nothing to hide from you doesn't mean I'd tell you everything.

  3. Paul Rogers
    WTF?

    Is Bill Ray a parent?

    "Blissful ignorance" was all well and good 20 years ago, but not so now I'm afraid. The internet (and the world in general these days) is a dangerous place for children for all manner of reasons and it's the parents who are ignorant (or just don't care enough) who will end up suffering the consequences.

    Not even ten years ago were children regularly and reliably able to communicate with each other outside of school or with other children further than half a mile down the road and, even then, not "privately". Communication isn't a bad thing, but it HAS to be monitored. The parents who don't monitor what their children are doing on their phones/ipods and on the internet are creating a huge problem for those parents who do actually give a toss. Questions I have to field from my 13 year old pretty regularly are "Why can't I have a phone? ALL my friends have phones", "Why do you have to monitor and restrict my internet usage? NONE of my friends are restricted". I appreciate this is most likely the exaggeration of 13 year old desperately trying to shake off the shackles and deeming the whole thing terribly unfair, but I reckon there's still some truth in what he says.

    "In 2011, 37 per cent of parents admitted checking out their children's communications (for their own good, of course)", I sense a hint of saracasm and the implication here is that these parents aren't doing it for their children's own good? If that's what you're saying then you're an imbecile

    1. Anonymous Coward
      Anonymous Coward

      Re: Is Bill Ray a parent?

      And the scaremongering has won a supporter.

      1. Paul Rogers
        Thumb Down

        *sigh*

        Oh do tell how this is as a result of scaremongering and not what is visible with my own eyes and audible with my own ears? In case you hadn't noticed, this is a technology rag and there's a fair chance that those reading the articles are technically minded, might even work in the internet industry (as I do), so I have a pretty good grasp of what constitutes danger to my children without someone "scaring" me.

        1. Anonymous Coward
          Anonymous Coward

          Re: *sigh*

          All you've seen and heard with your eyes and ears is what has been sensationalised on TV and in the newspapers. Stranger danger is the same as it has ever been. The biggest threat to children is their own parents.

        2. James Hughes 1

          I'm with Paul Rogers

          Although incidence of troubles are greatly reduced as commented above, that doesn't mean that there isn't a problem, and I think it's wise to at least be alert to those problems, and to do something about it where appropriate.

          Or you could just stick you head in the sand and hope your child doesn't become another statistic (even though that is very very unlikely)

        3. CD001

          Same as it ever was

          http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aJUM8eRAWdI

          NMA - "Frightened" - 1985!

        4. steviesteveo

          What is visible with my own eyes and audible with my own ears.

          Oh yeah? You've seen all these horrible things with your own eyes, have you? Were you watching TV at the time?

          If it's in the news it's exceptional enough to make it onto the news. Normal, everyday stuff doesn't get into the press. You don't need to worry about it.

    2. Andy B 1
      Happy

      Danger! Danger!

      Actually I think you'll find that the world in general (at least the developed world) is a vastly safer place for children (& everybody else) than it used to be. The fears have become big & scary but by almost any measure the actual incidence of incidents has declined. Smile, things are much better than you think.

      Rev. Andy

    3. Anonymous Coward
      Megaphone

      Well done! You've let them win!

      The developed world is, according to most findings safer now than ever before, the reason you believe all this tripe is the intrusive media scremongering that goes on. The media needs to sell "copy" and there is no better audience than a captive, paranoid one for lapping up the drivel you are spouting.

      How about you talk to your kids before you let them lose on the world. How about to teach them stranger danger but to a reasonable degree? Anyone of a certain age remember "Charlie Says" campaign? My parents warned me many times to be careful, stay in groups and ensure I pay attention and don't go anywhere too dangerous and don't go off with people you don't know. Simple and I managed to make it to adulthood. The media love scaring people, it makes great viewing and it ensures you come back for more shite to spew from the tube in the corner of the room.I'll offer some advice, turn off the TV and throw the papers in the recycling bin, they are both full of 100% A-grade bullshit designed to scare you into a) buying more media drivel and b) voting for the 'law and order guy' trying to get into power!

      The world is not full of rapists, muderers and paedofiles, it's full of typical normal people happily getting drunk or ripping each other off financially!

    4. Jean-Luc
      FAIL

      @Paul Rogers et all

      I call BS!

      I have my daughter's (13) email account login and she knows it. I also pretty much never look at it, though I don't tell her that. She's due to get a cellphone, but doesn't have one yet. It should make it easier for her to contact me when she needs to.

      We used to walk home from school when I was a kid. Now I feel adventurous sending her to the supermarket a block away when she was 10. Why? Because so many parents are so paranoid that you come off as a bad parent for letting your child breathe.

      I have lectured her repeatedly about not talking to strangers, screaming if she is grabbed, not taking anyone's "let's keep this as our secret" bullshit. I have told her that if _I_ came out with a "our secret", she should tell her mother. Just to get her to understand that adults can't do that. I have inquired from the police whether there was some kind of watered-down RPG-type training about avoiding abuse (no, there isn't, but a suitably done one would be great).

      But I refuse to spy on her communications without good reasons. I have no moral right to invade her privacy unless she gives me cause. At which point I have the obligation to do so.

      We are raising a generation of not-self-sufficient, scared, and it now seems, nosy kids. All because the media, and some parents want to pretend that "now is worse than it ever was". 50 yrs ago, would you have dared question the relationship of an authority figure with your child? Would the police have helped? Do you think no children got abused?

      1. steviesteveo

        Maybe parents want to believe it's worse for them

        I wonder if people like to think that they have it harder than their parents because the world has suddenly become a horrible and evil place like it never was when you were growing up.

  4. NoneSuch Silver badge
    Alert

    Parents SHOULD be checking their kids

    Home PC, console, cell phone, whatever. Computers that kids use should be out in the open and not in their rooms hidden away from view.

    There are all sorts of weenies out there who troll for young children / teens and there are many horror stories out there.

    Top Ten Tips for keeping your kids safe.

    https://www.isc2.org/PressReleaseDetails.aspx?id=6961

  5. Anonymous Coward
    Anonymous Coward

    It's a point worth making any way you look at it.

    Not-so-tangentially, we have private companies sitting on overly detailed logs of our doings (gsm location data, for example) and governments and others a tad too overly eager to make good use of all that. Unless we redesign such systems such that they positively cannot track us or at least not in that fine-grained a manner (think a national pager message to make the phone listen for an incoming call instead of having it always be signed into the nearest tower) we have to acknowledge that past mistakes are now haunting us. And so we need technology to put a lid on some of the existing technology's more onerous side effects.

    Perhaps encrypt all that data and make keys to it available only to those who have some right to it. Law enforcement with a signed warrant would be an obvious choice, though most of the time they don't have such warrants and consequently no right at all to the data. Tough cookies law enforcement, there's a reason why we put rules on powers like that.

    Whoever holds and perhaps pays for the mobile contract would be another. Parents being guarantor and/or supervising parties to a contract involving a minor would be another logical choice. Were I a parent I'd probably be happy checking once a month that the facility still works so that I might use it at need rather than, oh, plot whereabouts on the family living room wall-to-wall TV set. That way, I don't need to plant GPS devices.

    It makes no sense not to use facilities that are there anyway and moreover that you can hardly escape and third parties like the government are bound to use, too. It does make sense to make really clear how we-the-people want all that tech to be used. The government is there for us-the-people, not the other way around.

  6. The Nameless Mist
    WTF?

    Hello .. Security .. Passwords ?

    My iPhone has a pincode

    My home server has a password

    My home workstation has a password

    My other half does NOT know them.

    Yes there's a letter in the safe should it come down to "emergency circumstances" but the envelope is one of the "sealed - rip to open" type so its peek-proof.

    My other half would be just as narked off with me peeking at his accounts as I would be if I caught him peeking at mine.

    1. <shakes head>

      you have seperate

      Accounts????

    2. Anonymous Coward
      Unhappy

      Are you serious?

      Jeez, I couldn't handle that level of paranoia with someone I supposedly want to spend the rest of my life with! That just sounds so sad, my condolences.

      I know my Missus right down to her underwear size, I know what she hates the sound off, what she hates the taste off, what my kids do that could tick her off, her favourite colour, favourite band and song. We have separate online accounts for this and that but we both have password books and we both know where they are in case the other needs to get access for some reason. She could probably tell me more about myself than I know! 25 years of hard work and mainly trust. Yeah it could all one day just fall to pieces but you spend all your time worrying that might happen and it sounds like a very hard and desperately unhappy life ahead.

      1. Anonymous Coward
        Anonymous Coward

        Re: Are you serious?

        "Jeez, I couldn't handle that level of paranoia with someone I supposedly want to spend the rest of my life with!"

        That's fine. On the other hand I'd rather go with paranoia than insecurity. There is no reason you would need to know everything about your partner (much less snoop into their personal communications), other than mistrust or to deny them a sense of individuality by taking away their privacy.

        And by the way, "off" <> "of".

    3. Intractable Potsherd

      On the other hand ...

      ... I am my wife's IT manager. I know how to get into every account she holds (even if the password is changed, I know the process she uses, and could work it out fairly quickly). However, I would not do it - I just can't be arsed. She is a fully grown up person who is entitled to a life of her own.

      My laptop is seriously locked down because it goes out of the house, with multiple layers of protection from boot-up all the way through to encrypted folders on encrypted drives. I doubt my wife would have the patience to try to get through that lot, even if she knew how to find the encrypted stuff, anyway. The home computer, though, has the passwords saved for anything she might need to know if I am incapacitated for any reason.

      The kids, though - as far as I know, I can get into anything they have. So far I haven't needed to, but they are aware that they can be monitored if need be (a good life lesson - never assume you are safe from nosy bastards). I think this is merely an extension of my mum knowing where the porn magazines were stored, and who I fancied at school from random jottings on bits of paper in my bedroom!

  7. Anonymous Coward
    Thumb Down

    It's getting worrying

    How many of you seem to think that outright surveillance is part of being a good parent.

    My parents seemed to do an ok job whilst simultaneously respecting privacy (admittedly myspace and facebook were still just fields a decade ago, but there were still email, mobiles and group chat via msn). It's not like any of these measures are impervious to a good old fashioned private meet-up or a natter on the playground anyway is it?

    1. James Hughes 1

      Not sure you have noticed

      But things are a LOT different now to 10 years ago.

      My parents did a good job on me too btw, which is why I want to do the same for my children.

      1. Anonymous Coward
        Anonymous Coward

        I don't think they are.

        Yes the internet is more ubiquitous, and yes, there are social networks that now exist that don't. But I can't help thinking that the only thing that has changed is the means of communication. There is a wider audience I guess, but there were still message boards and all that crap. I can't help feeling that fear of something happening is far higher than the risk of anything happening, probably due to tabloid reporting.

        It just seems to me that a bit of education about the risks of the internet would go a lot further than constant surveillance. People didn't tend to follow their kids round town to make sure they weren't talking to strangers, so i don't see why the same rules can't apply online.

      2. Daniel 4
        Alert

        @James Hughes 1

        "But things are a LOT different now to 10 years ago.

        My parents did a good job on me too btw, which is why I want to do the same for my children."

        You mean the way that the world is MUCH safer for our children than it was for us? I agree, the statistics, research and crime reporting makes that pretty clear - even with the "new dangers" of our age, our children are much more likely to reach adulthood without traumatic experience - or even just reach adulthood - than we were.

        So obviously, we should panic over the threats that are left, and try to wrap them in bubble wrap until they are 18, upon which they will "be adults", have no real life experience to fall upon, and get themselves in trouble, maimed or killed by being thrown into the deep end to see if they can swim. Sounds like a plan to me!

        </very bitter sarcasm>

        Perceived risk is not the same as actual risk. Adolescence exists in no small part to teach our children to be adults, and to take more and more responsibility. We have to stop hovering over our children - our TEENAGE children - all the time if we don't want them to have trouble later on.

        -d

  8. ZimboKraut

    Checking Comms

    To be honest, I too occasionally look at my wifes messages, and she does the same with mine, but there is no secret going on there.

    Also my daughters communications are 100% checked.

    Every email she sends or receives is automatically CCed to my wifes and my email address.

    But she knows about it.

    Granted, my daughter is only nine, but I will keep it this way for at least another 5 or 6 years.

    I do agree a teenager needs to have a little bit of privacy, but with the amount of junk flying around these days from xxx to penile enlargemetn offiers, And dubious propositions, I will drop this when my wife and I deem her mature enough to make a reasonably sensible decision.

    It is my duty as a parent, to protect my children from harm.

    As parents we are aware, that cant just keep them locked up, but at least when something comes in, that seems unsuitable, I can at least talk to her and find out whats going on.

    And as long as she is aware, I don't see this as an invasion privacy.

    A lot of our children are messed up, because parents don't care, don't have time, have something "more important" to do etc.

    For crying outloud, they are our children and we have to care for them.

    I don't agree with doing this in secrecy, but in an open and honest fashion, so that they understand that it is for their protection.

    And once they get to the point of reasonable responsibility, we can start letting go bit by bit.

    Of course they have to learn that the world is not just milk and honey, but lets not let them drop into the snakepit.

    1. Daniel 4

      @ZimboKraut

      "Also my daughters communications are 100% checked.

      Every email she sends or receives is automatically CCed to my wifes and my email address.

      But she knows about it.

      Granted, my daughter is only nine, but I will keep it this way for at least another 5 or 6 years."

      You, Sir, are a perfect example of what I would like to hold up as the ideal. No secrets, and an intention to back off when she is old enough and "[has gotten] to the point of reasonable responsibility."

      Thank you for sharing.

      -d

    2. Chris007

      Same here

      Funnily enough my daughter (similar age) has just asked for her own email account and I intended to so the same thing as you (cc all in/out emails etc) but let her know this as you are.

      Best way to go in my mind

    3. Anonymous Coward
      Anonymous Coward

      Re: Checking Comms

      You seem to assume your daughter is stupid enough not to have her own email account which you know nothing about to keep her private communications private.

      1. Anonymous Coward
        Flame

        oh dear

        you clearly didn't read that his daughter is 9 yrs old and is unlikely to know how to do this (if she does then she's got a bright future in IT).

        As others have commented when my kids are old enough to work out how to get their own email then they're likely old enough to be given more responsibility. It's like when we were kids and I told my mother I was sleeping at jon's and jon told his he was sleeping at mine and we went to the party instead - all part of growing up is "beating the system" of mum and dad's rules.

  9. Lamont Cranston
    Facepalm

    I'm pretty sure my mum knew where I stashed my porn mags.

    Does this mean she was grossly infringing on my right to privacy?

  10. Bilgepipe

    Cats

    I'm sure my cat is monitoring my communications. I just can't prove it.

    1. AndrueC Silver badge
      Thumb Up

      Zap

      Until last year my budgie's cage was in a direct line between my laptop and the wifi point. All he had to do was evolve a receiver then do the decryption in his head :D

      On a slightly (only slightly) more serious note - he has spent his entire life living within two metres of a WAP and at coming up to eight is still very healthy and very happy. If a budgie can live on into old age while being bombarded with HF EM then it's no threat to me :)

  11. Neil Charles
    FAIL

    Nice try

    "Granted, my daughter is only nine, but I will keep it this way for at least another 5 or 6 years."

    You might, but do you think that she will? Seriously? Or do you think she'll open a gmail account and mail her new boyfriend from that?

    1. AndrewG

      All part of growing up

      ....and getting around that kinda thing is one of the signs that she's wanting to take a little bit more responsibility as long as she knows what she's getting into.

      Don't forget...were talking CHILDREN...if they were ready for full responsibility for their actions then they'd be ADULTS, whatever age they are.

      I can't see a problem with getting her email cc'd as long as the parents also take the time to educate her on why they are doing it, when she eventually opens her gmail account that'll be her first tenative steps into giving her a chance to make her own mistakes....in some places they call this growing up.

  12. Chad H.
    WTF?

    WTF

    is up with the American spelling of Mum. This is not on El Reg!

    1. Anonymous Coward
      Boffin

      MOM

      = Microsoft Operations Manager

  13. Anonymous Coward
    Anonymous Coward

    People should learn to trust partners

    IMO that's the whole issue wrt teenagers who snoop on each other; a classic lack of trust. Of course trust needs to be earned, but spying on one other is IMO the first sign that there's only distrust, which in itself is also a very bad motivator for a serious relation.

  14. Jimbo 6
    Childcatcher

    Worth knowing...

    ...I was at a pub quiz recently, & one of the questions was "What does the abbreviation POS mean, in teenage internet chatrooms ?" - and no-one in the room knew, myself included.

    So for everyone's enlightenment & future knowledge... "Parent Over Shoulder"

    (Just don't let the *little darlings* know that you know)

    1. Tasogare
      Happy

      Acronyms

      Myself and a few others in my circle used to use the slightly more generic "CTF" for this purpose, standing for "Can't Talk Freely." As far as I can recall we came up with it ourselves rather than adopting existing vernacular, but apparently the idea wasn't unique.

      I don't plan on having kids myself, but I wonder if such measures might not be useful as a growing up tool...set up monitoring that's meant to be evaded eventually, and when they're motivated and skillful enough to do so, it may be a good sign they're ready for the results.

      (I still remember reconnecting a dialup line at the phone box in the middle of the night once, to get around parental punishment so I could talk to my girlfriend....good times. Good learning experience too.)

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  15. TeeCee Gold badge
    FAIL

    Feel free.

    Go on, check the call history and such on my 'phone.

    Do you *really* think I'd be dumb enough to use something I habitually leave lying around the house for anything that might get me into hot water?

    This is "Facebook disease". You don't *have* to lower your intelligence to Facebook level and have your entire life in one sodding place....

  16. Anonymous Coward
    Stop

    As a parent of a teenager

    We have been through this with her (as have the school, involving a talk from the local constabulary and a psychologist). We explained she had to have either mum or dad as a friend on facebook. Her choice which, and that we had no real interest reading all the chatter with her friends, but its there as a "just in case". To the guy who cc's his daughters email, all I can say mine has at least 3 email accounts that I am aware of (one on my server, her school email and a hotmail account). She switches between them depending on what machine she is using.

    There is a difference between "monitoring" email and internet usage and spying on it. In the same way that as a parent you can keep an eye on your child's behaviour without filing it all on cctv.

    1. steviesteveo

      What is the difference between monitoring and spying?

      I suggest they're all part of the same irregular verb:

      I monitor

      You spy

      They put it on Wikileaks

  17. lotus49
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    People should learn to trust children

    I have three children, the oldest of whom is a teenager.

    My role is to educate them as to sensible online (and of course offline) behaviour in the same way that I taught them to cross the road. I have NO right to spy on them, particularly without their knowledge. I absolutely disagree that parents have a responsibility to snoop on their children that betrays a complete lack of either trust or respect.

    If I had found out that my parents had done something like this (I suppose the equivalent in my generation would have been reading letters and diaries) I don't think I ever would have forgiven them. Beware, if you don't trust your children, they will amply repay that lack of trust.

    1. ZimboKraut
      Facepalm

      RE: People should learn to trust children

      I do agree with you that there shouldn't be spying on the children.

      And as you used this term, I would like to emphasize, that spying does mean that it is doen secretly.

      My daughter (9) knows, understands and is actually quite happy with it.

      As I have been working for nearly 20 years in the IT industry amongst others, in the fields of system and network security, I would dare to say, that I am reasonably aware of the risks.

      Fact is, that we as parents have an obligation to keep our children reasonably safe. Observing and assessing risks and educating them accordingly.

      After all, you wouldn't let a three year old cross the road by him/herself.

      He/She needs to be taught that cars can come from either side, and then for severla years they are taken by the hand.

      Eventually they will learn and will get independent enough to go on their own.

      You may say, that traffic is something completly differnt.....

      Well it isn't.

      Just because you can't be run over doesn't mean you can't get hurt.

      Just to mention the term "Cyber-bullying"

      In our home we talk about these issues and once she is old enough to require her "privacy" apart from in the bathroom, she will find a way around it, or (in our family very likely) she will just ask me and it can be looked into.

      Until that time, I am going to do my level best to continue to observe and keep my kids safe.

  18. Rick Brasche

    sigh

    Apparently, "bad" parents "let" their kids get away with crap. they're also "bad" if they make sure their kids aren't doing crap. And "bad" if they actively work to stop their kids from doing crap.

    But there's no responsibility at all for children (teenagers) for their behavior. but we're supposed to give them the same freedoms as adults or we're "bad".

    It seems then, the only "good parents" these days are ones that have no children, are rich enough to foist the responsibility of raising them onto others, or are absolutely lucky enough the normal human mistakes a child makes aren't serious or visible. Or raised robots.

    the idea of trust is great but only if it's *earned*. If 50% of parents spy on the children (that they're legally responsible for, natch) anyone knowing teenagers knows there's a good chance most of those teenagers have not earned the trust, or worse, violated trust previously.

    Worry about "freedom" and "rights" when you're responsible for "consequences". Otherwise it's all fake, selfish and immature. *Earned* respect and trust has value, respect and trust demanded just because it's entitled or "deserved" is valueless.

    1. Charles Manning

      Awww rubbish

      You don't have to be rich to be a good parent. I know excellent caring parents who are on the dole.

  19. NoneSuch Silver badge

    @lotus49

    Do you look over or talk to your kids friends as they come in your house to make sure there are no drug offenders or psychos? As a responsible parent, of course you do. You set rules they need to live up to like curfews or chores. So why do you automatically assume all of their on-line associations are completely safe? Children do not understand this world and see everything in a positive and wonderful way.

    Your parents did not have to deal with invasive technology and social media. Trust is earned and as Ronald Reagan said, "Trust, but verify". You check to make sure they took the trash out. Why not check that their online activities meet your expectations as well? Kids resent any limits on their freedom. So what? You are not supposed to be their friend. You are supposed to be their parent and guardian.

    The following parents trusted their kids. There are thousands more links on Google just like it.

    http://www.thisislondon.co.uk/standard/article-23813217-internet-users-warned-over-meeting-strangers-after-girl-was-kidnapped-raped-and-murdered.do

    http://www.sooperarticles.com/internet-articles/social-networking-articles/girl-almost-kidnapped-fake-friend-facebook-335887.html

    http://scaredmonkeys.net/index.php?topic=9086.220

    1. Brezin Bardout

      Talking of trust.

      I hope you're better at verifying the integrity of your children's friends than you are of information on the internet.

      Out of three sources, one is a link to some random internet forum and the other to an article in an article directory, written by some guy trying to sell Facebook blocking software.

      I suggest you spend a little less time searching for stuff to scare yourself with and a little more on how to find reliable sources of information.

  20. CD001

    Laziness

    I know my other half reads some of my text messages - if she's closer to my mobile than I am... "Vic, what does that say - I can't reach the phone" ;)

  21. Anonymous Coward
    Childcatcher

    I'm the BOFH in my house

    everyone has the right to a separate account on the computer(s), mainly so they can't break it due to fatfingers or PEBKAC. I'm the admin and will check if necessary, but the parental controls are "everything is forbidden unless it's allowed" and logs are to the admin. It's like running a big company's IT dept in a small arena. Every device will be treated the same as they are acquired. As a result the plan is;

    no holiday facebook burglar announcements

    no planning to meet uknowns from chatrooms etc.

    no strange and unusual pr0n for the sprogladites until their old enough to do their own jail-time!

    anon because all my security belongs to me.

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