Re: The fuse wouldn't be that long
I don't know how fast the first stage goes, or whether atmospheric friction heating ever gets high enough for external explosives to be "dodgy". Certainly things like the external fuel tank for the Shuttle got fast and high enough that it would disintegrate on falling back to earth. I don't think the StarShip first stage gets that high or that fast, so maybe it could safely carry external explosives for the whole trip. But, to my knowledge, getting explosives "too hot" is not a good idea, stability wise.
When we look at other programmes, the bit that comes back is generally not the bit that's dangerous at launch. Gemini, Apollo, Soyuz style rockets; it's just the small mostly fuel-less capsule on the top that comes back. The Shuttle had its fuel tank on the outside, and never took it into orbit. All previous manned flight has had the range safety package on a component that did not need to go into space, or did not need to survive re-entry.
It'll be interesting to see if the FAA decides that range safety for StarShip does need to be beefed up. On the face of it, it looks like it is. Solving it could be a tricky problem. When one thinks about the problem of re-usable space in the context of being able to blow it up if necessary, it starts to make the Shuttle's architecture look fairly good.
So Near to Success, So Near to Ruining it All
StarShip feels like it's a good idea, but only if it's become reliable enough that (like a Jumbo Jet or any other airliner) one has high confidence in how well it can be operated. Get it to be as reliable as, say, a 747 and it'd not need a flight termination system.
Safe designs can be dangerously operated. Dangerous designs can be safely operated. All mechanised transport is of the latter. SpaceX have shown with this test that they've got a dangerous design (nothing inherently wrong in that - all things that move fast can be dangerous), but they're not very good at operating it (which is why the FAA has grounded them for now). Fixing that could be a whole lot more painful than any technical design changes.
For example, a lot of commentards (I include myself in that description and set) are saying "flame trench + water deluge" is the way to go. Everyone knows that they'd have a much greater chance of getting cleanly into they sky, with that launch pad set up. So, why not do the thing mostly likely to be successful in 1) being permitted, 2) actually working? Why throw yet another novel, untested, unverifiable idea (the water cooled steel plate) in the pathway to success, proposing to try it out for the very first time underneath the worlds biggest rocket? That feels strongly like trying to persist with a way of operating which the FAA clearly isn't happy with. SpaceX clearly didn't understand their current launch pad's resiliency, what makes them think they'll know any better with a steel plate? Why should the FAA believe them?
They've come this far; they could ruin it all. On the whole, it looks like if they can get it cleanly launched, it would at least reach orbit. If they can reach orbit, they can use it, dispose of it safely, fit it with the mother of all FTS's to make sure that it really does terminate if required. Once it's reliably safe with more relaxed FTS requirements, they can take some time to nail re-usability (remember, re-usability was an add-on to Falcon 9, added once the rocket itself was more or less working).
They don't need to innovate in launch pad design. No one buys launch pads.
Soil Mechanics
When they light up this rocket, they're creating a very intense, very localised earthquake. The way soft sandy waterlogged soil behaves in an earthquake is that it liquefies, flows, etc, starts oozing out of the ground all over the place. So, what they've probably got in the way of soil underneath the launch pad at Boca Chica at launch time is soft jelly moving all over the place. No wonder their concrete failed - it likely had nothing of value underneath it.
So, if they're assuming that their concrete pad, steel plate is going to get any support from underneath, that's likely not the case. I think to do what they're attempting, they'd need a very large stiff plate of something to spread the load out over a large area, and (more importantly) to have some way of isolating the soil underneath from the vibrations. That can be done with, say a thick bed of gravel (as is done with nuclear bunkers). Trouble is, the gravel bed would compact each launch, and the whole thing may be too heavy and sink into the sand anyway
What you likely don't want is deep-sunk stiff foundation piles conducting the vibrations downwards and acting like tuning forks stirring up the soft, sandy soil. The way such piles are sunk in the first place is using shock and/or vibration. That ought to be a clue as to how suited to extremely strong vibration environments such foundations are...
If they're going to persist with Boca Chica and no flame trench, the best thing they can do right now is hire an experienced Japanese construction engineer. They know about structures, earthquakes, and rubbish soil. If one of those folk says, "Can't be done", they'd best give up and go elsewhere where they can have a flame trench and water deluge.
Of course, the beauty of the water deluge is that, not only does it protect the rocket, it protects the structures underneath it. In absorbing shock and vibration, the foundations are protected. Better to hammer away at disposable fluid, than have something that you'd like to remain solid fluidised.